One new thing a day - about your partner

It was a Halloween party and DD2 put on a long, dark, black wig. It looked awesome but what was more striking was the effect it had on noticing the colour of her eyes. Literally reframing her face with different hair style had encouraged me to notice things about her face that I had always know were there and never noticed.

    When I work with couples one of the gripes is 'boredom'. The sameness of today to yesterday. It occurs in every relationship - familial, friend, work, Dr/patient - anyone you meet regularly.So here's an idea. Each time you meet them consciously look for one new thing, or thing you'd forgotten about them. Make the effort to see the new to you.It's not a requirement to tell them - although I did tell DD2 how pretty her eyes looked. It's about seeing with a present mind.

 ( Idea pinched and slightly modified from a podcast from ZOE with Dr Ellen Langerhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Gmi9OoCxhoM )